#SocialCafe 8.39 Chat Transcript Author: Deborah Published: [mashshare shares="false" buttons="true" align="left"]Click Here to view entire Twitter Chat Summary.Tuesday #TwitterChat List #4 #SocialRoadTrip 9pm #custserv 9pm #WiningHourChat 9pm #SocialCafe 9pm… https://t.co/PYl6LezvxQ— Danielle Mamagona ???(@PokeyLuWho) Hey @mojosarmy - we appreciate you no matter what the time. :)#SocialCafe https://t.co/U8ZET9OpKg— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) RT @socialwebcafe: Hey @mojosarmy - we appreciate you no matter what the time. :)#SocialCafe https://t.co/U8ZET9OpKg— Mojo(@mojosarmy) @socialwebcafe Big hearts #SocialCafe— Mojo(@mojosarmy) Welcome to the #SocialCafe Chat at our weekly Tues 6pm PDT / 9p EDT slot— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) Our topic for this #SocialCafe : The Role(s) of Egotism and Confidence in Social Media Writing 8.39 #chattingNow— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @socialwebcafe Wow - if you want to continue the #daretobe talk of #confidence then join me over at #socialCafe :D— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) 2 Tips to Help Us Build and Grow: 1) Please follow each other on Twitter; and 2) Please retweet the questions. #SocialCafe Thanks!— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat) Tonight: The Role(s) of Egotism and Confidence in Social Media Writing 8.39 #SocialCafe— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) Q1 How do you define confidence (self-confidence)? How about egotism? #SocialCafe— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @Kathrynclang @socialwebcafe Hmm....I think Karma is trying to tell me something with these two chat topics in a row tonight. #SocialCafe— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) Q1 (rephrase) What is self-confidence? How about egotism? #SocialCafe— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat) A1: I say I have confidence.My husband says I have a big head . . . or maybe that was big hair. I probably need t… https://t.co/BBGjcTwaTl— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) @_TomGReid @socialwebcafe I know, right.I'm thinking it's that we need to continue to grow our confidence so we b… https://t.co/N1V5WKxaPO— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) A1 Self-confidence is a fair assessment of one’s skill set whereas egotism is an over-inflated assessment of the same skill set #SocialCafe— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @Kathrynclang Wow - how are we doing this, Kat? Cool that we are all on the same wavelength!#daretobe community… https://t.co/nHGElxDAHX— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @Kathrynclang Hey - we love you either way!And, I love big hair, Kat! I always had that "English little hair" an… https://t.co/dyX8Cs2oLC— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) Start getting those #ShamelessPlug tweets ready > We will tweet them later in #SocialCafe— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat) A1) I think of it in terms of self-efficacy. Having a strong belief in oneself helps deal with life in all its dim… https://t.co/DEifWKUkJT— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) Q2 Now that we have defined the terms, are egotism and confidence different or the same? How so? #SocialCafe— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) Q2 (rephrase) How are self-confidence and egotism similar or different? #SocialCafe— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat) @socialwebcafe @Kathrynclang I grew up in Baltimore where beehive hairdos are still common. #SocialCafe— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) A2 Self-confidence & egotism could both be related to one's skill set but they differ in how much attention is give… https://t.co/V53BQXL9Ba— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) A2) Self-confidence is grounded in reality and your belief in yourself. Egoism is a "look at me whether I deserve i… https://t.co/830ztaYi6l— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) I like this term. I shall practice saying it and use it often.#SocialCafe https://t.co/XO9yQ0tVVy— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) @_TomGReid @socialwebcafe I once lost a baby squirrel in my hair. :D#SocialCafe— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) Q3 Is self-confidence essential to success in social media marketing? How about in blogging or writing? #SocialCafe— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) Q3 (rephrase) How essential is self-confidence to success? #SocialCafe— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat) A3 Self-confidence is helpful for success in many areas of life, including social media marketing and writing (and… https://t.co/zne7mNPD8m— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) A3: You have to believe in what you are doing (confidence) if you want others to get on board and support the effor… https://t.co/X2I9VoJQR4— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) @Kathrynclang @_TomGReid Growing our confidence is definitely a helpful ingredient in world domination ;)For our… https://t.co/jzme5Umuag— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @socialwebcafe A3: You don't have to be a "confident person" to be a successful writer or marketer, but you do need… https://t.co/jk3bwVzsbC— Joel Schwartzberg(@TheJoelTruth) Thanks @commun_it for helping us create #Twitter relationships https://t.co/mlgn0f0weL please RT #SocialCafe #ad— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) I like how you describe that, @_TomGReid (and hi!)I think looking at your situation and asking if there is that g… https://t.co/f7Wi9U5ApQ— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @socialwebcafe @_TomGReid I do talk about your world domination - and right now we are walking through the steps to… https://t.co/c3LbeJt8Bp— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) @Kathrynclang @socialwebcafe Did you ever find it? Was it all grown up? #SocialCafe— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) Q4 Is egotism essential to success in social media marketing? How about in blogging or writing? #SocialCafe— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @_TomGReid @socialwebcafe I found it when I went to take a nap. It had burrowed under my ponytail while I was readi… https://t.co/d0r9WWxd21— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) Q4 (rephrase) How essential is egotism to online success? #SocialCafe— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat) A3) You are judged by what you do. This mandates that you do something. Leaders have a bias for action, so at some… https://t.co/hSLZ424b3W— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) A4: Egotism will repel success . . . at least in the long run.#SocialCafe https://t.co/QHSZE6edvV— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) A4 Many successful social media marketers make good use of egotism and there are many celebrities who use it (succe… https://t.co/0n1v5ICQ1y— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @Kathrynclang @_TomGReid Seriously? I would have wanted to adopt it ;)I almost lost that praying mantis that lan… https://t.co/pXbBdZN7fO— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @socialwebcafe Yes, but it is very hard to view yourself objectively. You need mentors, an accountability team, and… https://t.co/Xe3UAYvsHO— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) RT @socialwebcafe: Thanks @commun_it for helping us create #Twitter relationships https://t.co/mlgn0f0weL please RT #SocialCafe #ad— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) @Kathrynclang Self-efficacy?Cool term, isn't it? Thanks @_TomGReid :)We used it quite a bit in our psychology… https://t.co/BDuDuitvp9— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @socialwebcafe A4: I stopped caring about egotism -- essential or not -- the moment I looked it up. #SocialCafe https://t.co/Ly0RHMiTMx— Joel Schwartzberg(@TheJoelTruth) A4) It is a variable line for everyone. You have to have confidence and part of that is convincing yourself that yo… https://t.co/pmJTXZTHbk— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) Q5 Is there a way to balance the use of self-confidence and egotism in success as a digital marketer? How about oth… https://t.co/RBoOcE1799— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) Q5 (rephrase) What about balancing self-confidence and egotism? #SocialCafe— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat) A5 I have found that the easiest (notice I did not say “easy”) way to balance self-confidence is by keeping my atti… https://t.co/uO6POTBZ7p— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) A5) Be confident when speaking to clients, but stay in the realm of reality. When marketing, seems to me it's bette… https://t.co/2RNZDduvlo— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) Q6 Can a digital marketer succeed without some sort of sense of self-confidence? What about egotism? Why or why not? #SocialCafe— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @Kathrynclang @_TomGReid Now, is that a situation where people learn how to manage the world in which they live or… https://t.co/dCcmvUPJWm— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @socialwebcafe This is an important point, I believe. The sustained leader works constantly to know themselves. Reg… https://t.co/gUeUs2Ak5a— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) Q6 (rephrase) Is there success to be had without self-confidence? #SocialCafe— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat) A6 A digital marketer can succeed without self-confidence, but at a great level of effort. Therefore success flow… https://t.co/yXeHSiSHCM— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @_TomGReid And, those small leaps are consistent with what we have discussing this year with the little bits and li… https://t.co/LcUH2PDQwt— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @socialcafechat Humility is working to be the best you can be without buying into (or even worrying about) what the… https://t.co/ss79qUoszC— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) @socialwebcafe @_TomGReid It's definitely a little of both - dare I say, a balancing act ;)#SocialCafe— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) @_TomGReid @socialcafechat Listening to THEY will send you chasing squirrels down rabbit holes instead of doing wha… https://t.co/xp4ib3MIwK— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) @Kathrynclang @_TomGReid Too funny.Hey - I am picturing (no pun intended) a children's book - a story about the b… https://t.co/8rnjuTLZoj— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @socialwebcafe You can't steer a ship that is dead in the water. Get it moving and then the small rudder will direc… https://t.co/PMXoD0QtkG— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) Q7 What other tips do you have, related to the discussion of self-confidence, egotism, and success in your particular field? #SocialCafe— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @socialwebcafe @Kathrynclang Not sure what I can offer, but sure. I'm in. #SocialCafe— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) Oh, I am laughing too hard!We could have a CS Lewis wardrobe where the squirrel has adventures and gets there via… https://t.co/FzroPLzhsT— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) Q7 (rephrase) Any other questions (or tips) related to this topic? #SocialCafe— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat) @_TomGReid @socialwebcafe My kids draw - but nothing they would show anyone ;)#SocialCafe— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) A7 If you care about people, ensure that your self-confidence is kept at bay, just enough to help you serve and lov… https://t.co/ApUcrUqLGC— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) A7) If you have my book, take a look at sections 1.3.3, 1.3.5, and 2.3. Lots of thoughts and advice on humility, be… https://t.co/QpgbkBbT0q— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) @TheJoelTruth Yeah - that says it all, eh?Another interesting contrast is between egotism and Narcissistic Person… https://t.co/eChZ6mmP5D— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @_TomGReid It's only when you believe that you are positioned to act.#SocialCafe— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) Question for my #SocialCafe family: Is this self confidence or egoism? You often need your friends to help you cali… https://t.co/RTAdvjrOqr— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) @_TomGReid When you share what you've created because you believe it's a benefit to the conversation then it's confidence!#SocialCafe— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) Q8 Finally, it is time to brag about what you do well! Your #ShamelessPlug is .. #SocialCafe— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @Kathrynclang Thanks. #SocialCafe— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) Q8 (rephrase) Time for the #ShamelessPlug! #SocialCafe— #SocialCafe Team(@socialcafechat) A8 My favorite #ShamelessPlug is this #SocialCafe community (and #LinkedInChat) - family!— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) A8) I'm scrambling this week on a thousand little tasks that are bogging me down. Not sure I do any of them well or… https://t.co/Z2IXbCwL1B— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) @_TomGReid Ah, yes! #SocialCafe— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) My #ShamelessPlug for #SocialCafe tonight:Join me for #GrowingHOPE daily this week as we tackle budget creation f… https://t.co/PsgnMz6m9d— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) @_TomGReid Keep plugging away - a little here and a little there will add up. :D#SocialCafe— Kathryn Lang(@Kathrynclang) @_TomGReid I know what I am going to review tonight! And, for those of you who haven't yet obtained your copy, gra… https://t.co/Jqth78AFQg— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) Thank u for joining us for our #SocialCafe Chat. Just wanted to let you know we appreciate u!— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) Great stuff here: #SocialCafe https://t.co/LCXIe6i0jI— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) @Kathrynclang @_TomGReid That is how I approached unpacking (and packing, for that matter) after a move. There are… https://t.co/UlohD52N4J— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @socialwebcafe Thank you! #SocialCafe— Tom Reid(@_TomGReid) See what @Kathrynclang is sharing in her #ShamelessPlug here on #SocialCafe >> https://t.co/2FTBpEA2Q2— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) @_TomGReid I used to love it when our family would clean the house together on Saturdays. What was cool was that I… https://t.co/CXsaVMdcPq— Deborah(@socialwebcafe) Link to Complete Summary.
